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When Anger Is Really Love in Disguise
These days, I see a lot of young people in my therapy room. Their faces still hold a little baby fat. When they smile, they still look like beautiful kids. And when they cry, they’re truly sad and have no clue what to do. They all have one thing in common: outside my therapy room, they […]
Pursuer or Withdrawer? The Stress Language No One Talks About
In the last article, I talked about how people handle stress differently. If there are love languages for how we receive and express love, there’s one for stress, too. When we’re stressed, it’s easy for us to alienate ourselves or disengage from our partners. But for some people, it’s the opposite: they’re desperate […]
Running on 20%: What Stress Is Really Doing to Your Relationship
Running on 20%: What Stress Is Really Doing to Your Relationship In a fast-paced city like HK, things seem to get tense easily. We work an average of 43–45 hours per week, with industries like service, sales, retail, food & beverage, and elementary occupations often seeing longer hours: 45–54 hours or more. […]
The Real Cure for FOMO
Do You Feel Left Out? The Real Cure For FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) When you see friends hanging out without you, colleagues landing promotions, or peers posting fancy travel photos, do you feel an ache of loneliness, inadequacy, or exclusion? If you answered “yes” to any of these, you are likely experiencing FOMO: […]
The Real Reason You’re Burnt Out in Hong Kong
Hong Kong is one of the fastest-paced cities, with an average of 43 working hours per week. This may sound wild to many people, but it is the norm for Hongkongers. When I relocated to Las Vegas, about one year in, I went back to Hong Kong for a holiday while I was pregnant. […]
Your Emotions Are Not the Enemy
My friends often say, “You’re so calm, you have no emotions.” But here’s the truth: everyone has emotions. Even a PhD in psychology still loses their cool in an argument with their spouse (especially!). The real question was never whether you have emotions. It’s what you do with them. The Problem Isn’t […]
When You’re At Your Lowest And Downward Spiraling
We’ve all been there: nothing major has actually happened, but the thoughts just won’t stop. You feel stuck. Not just tired, not just sad, but genuinely stuck, like you’re trapped.
Love or Fear? The Hidden Reason We Try to Fix People
We live in a world surrounded by people we deeply care about. Family, friends, partners, children…their pain affects us too. Because we love them, it’s not easy to simply say, “I don’t care.” So naturally, many of us become overly involved in other people’s lives. We offer unsolicited advice.We try to fix their problems.We convince them to […]
Social Anxiety: Why You Feel So Self-conscious Around People
You know what’s interesting? A lot of people think social anxiety only happens to shy, introverted, or “low confidence” people. But honestly, some of the clients I’ve worked with who have the highest levels of social anxiety are actually highly functioning. They perform well at work, in school, and with family, but they’re […]
Why Love Feels Intense in the Beginning and Why It Changes
Last week, a close friend shared something that many people can relate to. Her friend was feeling frustrated in her relationship. She said, “He changed.” In the beginning, he made so much effort: calling her for hours, spending time with her without hesitation, even surprising her with things she loved as if he could […]